The Eyes Have It
Do you think you can tell when someone is interested in your conversation, or into you just by looking at their eyes? Today we will use the science of eye reading to either understand what someone thinks of you, or to improve your ability to let someone know you are interested in them.
Putting Eye Reading to Use
Pupil: The expanding and contracting opening in the iris of the eye.
Since the pupil is not controllable, it gives great insight to the emotions of the person you are looking at.The things that determine the mood is the dilation,(when the size of your pupil is enlarged) and the contraction,(when the size of your pupil is reduced.)
In 1975, Eckhard Hess found that when your pupil dilates – gets bigger, you are interested in the person or object you are looking at.When your pupil size is reduced it shows a lack of interest or attention in the person or object you are focusing on.
Use a normal rate of eye contact:
When it comes to eye contact, people seldom find themselves actually looking into the person’s eyes.The reason for this is it is uncomfortable, and it can be seen as a sign of aggression as you want to intimidate those you don’t like by staring into their own eyes.
If you are interested in the person you are comfortable making eye contact with, winking is a gesture of a trustworthy friend or partner.Winking is typically overused in society as it is more of a joke, to use it more effectively, don’t use it as often.
Crying happens when you experience intense emotions, mostly involving sadness, grief, or depression, but can also happen with extreme happiness, humor, or eagerness.People like to cry, it is a great way to keep up with your emotions, but there is two types of crying, forced crying (known as crocodile tears) and actual crying.People often fake cry to get sympathy from others, but this is very distinguishable because the people crying tend to exaggerate the experience of emotions and the tears accumulate quicker than they would when the person is actually crying.Use this to your advantage by being honest with your crying to seem less desperate for sympathy.
Eye Reading Tips:
- Take note of the person’s pupil, it can help you see if the person is interested in what you have to say.
- Don’t stare, but make casual eye contact to the person you’re talking to.
- Use winking seldomly to make it more effective.
- Be honest with your emotions to seem less desperate to get others to feel sympathy for you.
Eye reading can be used as a way to have a great, understandable conversation with the person you are interested in or trying to find out if they are interested as well.