The Eyes Have It
Do you think you can tell when someone is interested in your conversation, or into you just by looking at their eyes? Today we will use the science of eye reading to either understand what someone thinks of you, or to improve your ability to let someone know you are interested in them.
Putting Eye Reading to Use
Pupil: The expanding and contracting opening in the iris of the eye.
Since the pupil is not controllable, it gives great insight to the emotions of the person you are looking at.The things that determine the mood is the dilation,(when the size of your pupil is enlarged) and the contraction,(when the size of your pupil is reduced.)
In 1975, Eckhard Hess found that when your pupil dilates – gets bigger, you are interested in the person or object you are looking at.When your pupil size is reduced it shows a lack of interest or attention in the person or object you are focusing on.
Use a normal rate of eye contact:
When it comes to eye contact, people seldom find themselves actually looking into the person’s eyes.The reason for this is it is uncomfortable, and it can be seen as a sign of aggression as you want to intimidate those you don’t like by staring into their own eyes.
If you are interested in the person you are comfortable making eye contact with, winking is a gesture of a trustworthy friend or partner.Winking is typically overused in society as it is more of a joke, to use it more effectively, don’t use it as often.
Crying happens when you experience intense emotions, mostly involving sadness, grief, or depression, but can also happen with extreme happiness, humor, or eagerness.People like to cry, it is a great way to keep up with your emotions, but there is two types of crying, forced crying (known as crocodile tears) and actual crying.People often fake cry to get sympathy from others, but this is very distinguishable because the people crying tend to exaggerate the experience of emotions and the tears accumulate quicker than they would when the person is actually crying.Use this to your advantage by being honest with your crying to seem less desperate for sympathy.
Eye Reading Tips:
- Take note of the person’s pupil, it can help you see if the person is interested in what you have to say.
- Don’t stare, but make casual eye contact to the person you’re talking to.
- Use winking seldomly to make it more effective.
- Be honest with your emotions to seem less desperate to get others to feel sympathy for you.
Eye reading can be used as a way to have a great, understandable conversation with the person you are interested in or trying to find out if they are interested as well.
I have a secret science crush. I have had this crush for a while but it got worse when I started listening to the StarTalk Radio podcast with Neil deGrasse Tyson (NdT). I don’t know how I am so late to the party picking this podcast up but now that I have found it, I get to stream NdT into my earhole at least once a week. Sometimes I go back and listen to older episodes just to get a fix. In a StarTalk Radio podcast, you get humor, science, life and logical discussion in easy to digest chunks… and NdT.
Just in case you have been under a rock, let me tell you a little about NdT. Neil deGrasse Tyson is this generation’s Carl Sagan. He is the pre-eminent astrophysicist in America today and, more importantly, he is one of the biggest promoters of science to our very unscientific pop-culture. There was a time when science and scientists were sexy. When astronauts were America’s heroes. NdT brought Sagan’s Cosmos back to the masses, for a new generation. He appears on TV shows and in movies and in documentaries. He keeps himself in front of the public, all the while throwing some science at the people. His day job is Director of the Hayden Planetarium in New York City – this guy is a real scientist but he is different than the stereotype. He shatters that stereotype. But, when you hear him dig into a subject with his guests… he knows his stuff.
Back to the topic at hand. The StarTalk Radio podcast has many different styles and formats. A typical episode will have NdT and a guest or two or three. These guests will run the gambit from scientists to authors to comedians. He chooses people that he is interested in. He chooses people that make him think, that are thought-provoking and sometimes you can see that he is geeking out over talking to them just as much as we are geeking out listening to them. You will run across Cosmic Queries, in which our intrepid host takes questions from the interwebs with the help of a co-host. Did I mention that a lot of the time NdT has comedians as his co-hosts? Eugene Mirman and Chuck Nice are the two that appear on the show most but anyone might turn up. Dr. Tyson has done a very good job of surrounding himself with interesting, funny, witty, smart people. All of these factors makes this a podcast that I wait for each and every week.
Then there is Star Talk Live. Live shows, that you can attend, around the country. Yes, you can go catch a StarTalk Radio episode live! Again, the panel at these shows is diverse and interesting, thought-provoking and most of all fun. These live shows end up as podcasts but certainly if you are so inclined and live in the proximity they are going to having one, GO SEE IT and let us all know how awesome it is. These live shows usually have a bigger cast of characters but they are just as entertaining and full of NdT as a regular StarTalk Radio podcast.
Bill Nye is a fixture of the StarTalk Radio Show. Again, if you have lived under a rock most of your life, you may have missed Bill Nye. And to that, I say – SHAME. Bill Nye was a fixture of my childhood with his show Bille Nye the Science Guy. This show, much like StarTalk, tries to bring science to the masses. BNtSG broke down science for children and young adults making it fun and entertaining. Bill Nye has had a resurgence as of late both in his role on StarTalk Radio, on popular shows like The Big Bang Theory and just popping up in pop-culture all over the place. Google Bill Nye and Ken Ham on YouTube if you want to see a great scientific debate.
Anyway, add the StarTalk Radio podcast to your podcast playlist. Great show, very informative and just delightful. This is the way that I get my Neil deGrasse Tyson fix each week. Check it out!